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I’ve worked in the entertainment industry for almost 20 years now. I’ve been a restless vagabond and started dozens of different entertainment careers including setting up my own entertainment related company (several times). It’s been an adventure but also an experience full of trials and various hilariously inventive failures.

I don’t think it’s a shock for anyone to hear that entertainment is full of hopelessly miserable people whose only purpose in life seems to be making others miserable while they stack their money pile even higher. There are so many successful people who are also world class jerks that you might say to yourself “maybe there is something to this whole being an unrepentant asshole thing” and then you start yelling at a production assistant about why your salad is too cold and where-is-that-thing-I’m-pretty-sure-I-asked-for-5-minutes-ago anyway?!?

I tried on a lot of personalities over the years in an attempt to fool the gods of success into convincing them I was one of their tribe. It became a sort of religion to me. Maybe today if I wear this anger mask and dance around the fire the gods will believe I am also one of their spirit minions and shower me with riches. This did not work.

Eventually I went to therapy, spent more time in a state of both physical and emotional sobriety and learned to “let go and let god” to some degree. The thing I came to realize is that being of service to others made me feel better. I don’t mean like “I feel like a good person” but I felt more physically rested, I seemed to have less need for the waterfall like doses of pepto bismol and I started experiencing random feelings of joy just sitting at the park or wherever.

Making real attempts at being good has been important to my journey and has been a literal life saver. If you are struggling with purpose or meaning in your life try it out. People spend years in therapy or church or whatever and still live with a terrible emptiness that often leads to tragedy. The old Bible verse “faith without works is dead” is something I often think about. I used to feel dead inside but now I feel alive.

That’s been my experience and how giving has helped me realize a purpose I struggled to find for years. Nothing else worked as well or has sustained my spirit in the same way. I am joyful but I don’t take it for granted, it takes work and giving is part of that work.

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> I do think of this as part of an ethic of trying to be a not-awful person, but it’s really just about being a cooperative member of society — someone who doesn’t free ride — rather than being a truly other-directed gesture.

There’s a lot in this article that I like and agree with, yet this point in particular resonated with me. Opposition to free riding seems like a right-coded belief, and despite that, I as a progressive liberal believe this is an essential foundation of society.

At some level, I think all people have an intuitive disgust of freeloaders. We might disagree about who are the worst offenders: are they billionaires living opulent lives from the proceeds of other’s labor or welfare cheats who live off the largess of the government? Yet, at a deep emotional level, everyone is offended by the idea of free riders in our society.

Further, the psychological hardware that opposes mooching seems essential to human cooperation and flourishing society. When people begin to believe that others are gaming the system for unjust rewards, then they lose trust in institutions and society at large. For example, look at how tax evasion has become endemic in south Europe, which only adds to their fiscal and economic problems.

I believe it would be productive for all of us across the political spectrum to accept and even embrace this aspect of human psychology. For example, Democratic politicians could recognize freerider aversion as a challenge to address in welfare policy design. We’d likely have more success in persuading voters to support welfare expansion if we communicate our concern about gaming the system, and further explain how we’ll defend against cheaters, including punishing them. Similarly, Republicans might have more success in generally lowering taxes on the rich if they are willing to call out and prosecute the worst cases of tax evasion by the wealthy.

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