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I think the claim that it's very costly is just clearly and straightforwardly true. You're effectively asking me to commit several hours of my time to this post – an order of magnitude more time than I'd usually spend on even a very good EA Forum post. Free time is scarce and precious, and the opportunity cost of spending so much time on this is very high.
I'm asking you to do this iff you yourself feel that you want to do it.
I'm not asserting that you're acting from an irrational emotional aversion.
I was genuinely curious about how the very-costly feeling was showing up in your body and in your mind.
At the very least, I claim there's decent evidence that it's ineffective practice, in this venue: your post and comments here have been downvoted six ways from Sunday, which seems like a worse way to advocate for your claim than a different approach that got upvoted.
We are using very different metrics to track effectiveness.
Admittedly, you say that "I want you to think carefully and spaciously for yourself about what is best, and then do the things that seem best as they come to you from that spacious place", and maybe that is a significantly different goal from the usual one
This is my goal. This is what I want. This is my intention. (I tried to state it clearly in the post.)Wouldn't it be interesting if this goal were significantly different from how goals are usually used?
Could you say more about why this request seems extremely unreasonable to you?
My request applies to both positive and negative responses.