I don't disagree with any of that. To be clear, I wasn't using that tweet as evidence she asked permission, but rather that they had little prior relationship.

What I'm confused by is why he assumed that he had any presumption of privacy in the first place, given the fact that she's a journalist and they don't have a significant prior friendship. In my opinion, that's not a situation where Kelsey is obligated to explicitly check if he's ok with this being on the record. That ought to be the default assumption.

The "donate in public and brag about it" thing has been an EA norm since the early days. The rationale was to take the desire for status and weaponize and corrupt it in the service of good. It was in explicit and deliberate opposition to the mainstream Judeo-Christian norm of keeping it to oneself. Funny how things work out

The claim that Sam considered it an informal chat between friends seems hard to square with this tweet from Kelsey

He at least claims he didn't intend for the conversation to be public. Difficult to see how it didn't occur to him that he should explicitly state it was off the record.