Someone asked me what my favourite Food for Thought topic had been so far, so I'm linking it here:
Thank you everyone for coming! As always it was a very enjoyable conversation <3
Since it rained a bit and the sky doesn’t look very inviting, we’re meeting at my place. If you’re not on the telegram chat, message me directly for the address :)
Due to the low number of sign-ups we’ve decided to skip this month’s women+non binary meetup. We hope you enjoy the wonderful Berlin spring, and for those at EAG London we wish you fruitful conversations!
We’re looking forward to seeing you again in the next meetup of the series.
A point I'd add, or perhaps a variation of point 2, is:
Provide the necessary context: introduce yourself in a way that lets them know enough to get an idea of who you are in relation to them, explain the reason for your message concisely and be explicit with what action is required so that they can target the best response.
It's better to write an additional paragraph in order to provide context, than to send a series of concise questions you need answers to without letting them know why they should care about replying in the first place.
Here are the links we promised: The Noticing Game: https://www.wouter.org/authentic-relating/notice-imagine-feel-speaking-truth/
Decide 10: https://medium.com/prototypethinking/the-should-we-do-this-rating-system-3aac062b1b91
Rule 0: “If something feels awkward or scary to say, you must find a way to say it.”
Receiving Feedback: Make it uncostly for others to give it!: “Thanks for your feedback.” Questions to understand the core of the feedback are fine; justifying yourself or arguing whether the feedback is correct is out of place. If feedback causes a strong emotional reaction for you, it can help to say internally: “I’m not on the world to live up to your expectations.”
Withholds - General structure:
A: “[Name], I have a withhold for you. Do you want to hear it?”
A - if yes: “When you did x, I felt y. (Because I thought/needed z. Could you do a for me now?)”
B - “Thank you.”
How strictly you follow the structure, and whether you go for polite and safe “I”-statements or just fire away with your judgments depends on your relationship to the other person. Anything goes, as long as it doesn’t threaten a fundamental attitude of “you and me versus the problem” rather than “you versus me”.
Online Feedback tool: www.admonymous.co
If you haven’t done so already, we greatly appreciate hearing from you:
I hope you had a good time yesterday.
I prepared a very short survey to collect feedback. We would love to hear from you so we can make better events in the future:
For the people who had some pizza, I’d appreciate if you could drop a contribution here (amounted to ~9€ per person):
Update: the name on the doorbell is Murshid