LessWrong lurker since 2009. Second-generation diasporan. Rationalist out of the woodwork.
You might be interested in my project then, which was made exactly for people like you (and me) who have the same concerns and external constraints.
It's not live yet (I know, I know, but I'm working on it!) but do let me know if you'd be interested to try it out once it's in a usable state!