To my eye, a lot of EAs seem to under-appreciate the extent to which your response to a crisis isn't just a reaction to an existing, fixed set of societal norms. The act of choosing a response is the act of creating a norm.
You're helping bring into existence a particular version of EA, a particular version of academia and intellectual life, and a particular world-at-large. This is particularly true insofar as EA is a widely-paid-attention-to influencer or thought leader in intellectual society, which I think it (weakly) is.
It's possible to overestimate your influence, but my impression is that most EAs are currently underestimating it. Hopefully this post can at least bring to your attention the hypothesis that your actions matter for determining the norms going forward, even if you don't currently think you have enough evidence to believe that hypothesis.
If you want the culture to be a certain way, I think it's worth taking the time to flesh out for yourself what the details would look like, and find ways to test whether there are any ways to effect that norm, or to move in the direction that seems best to you.
Anchor more to what you actually think is ethical, to what you think is kind, to what you think is honorable, to what you think is important and worth protecting. If you think your peers aren't living up to your highest principles, then don't give up on your principles.
(And maybe don't give up on your peers, or maybe do, depending on what seems right to you.)
Don't ignore the current set of norms you see; but be wary of willing bad outcomes into being via self-fulfilling prophecies.
Be dissatisfied, if the world doesn't already look like the vision of a good, wholesome, virtuous world you can picture in your head. Because as someone who feels optimistic about EAs' capacities to do what's right, I want to see more people fighting for their personal visions of what that involves.