This chapter's exercise is about doing some personal reflection. There are no right or wrong answers here, instead this is an opportunity for you to take some time and think about your ethical values and beliefs.
A letter to the past (10 mins.)
This exercise asks you to explore what it would take to change your mind about something important.
Imagine someone from the past who held views characteristic of that time. Also imagine, for the sake of the exercise, that this person is not too different from you - perhaps you would have been friends. Unfortunately, many people in the past were complicit in horrible things, such as slavery, sexism, racism, and homophobia, which were even more prevalent in the past than they are now. And, sadly, this historical counterpart is also complicit in some moral tragedy common to their time, perhaps not out of malevolence or ill-will, but merely through indifference or ignorance.
This exercise is to write a short letter to this historical friend arguing that they should care about a specific group that your present self values. Imagine that they are complicit in owning slaves, or in the oppression of women, people of other races, or sexual minorities.
For the sake of this exercise, imagine your historical counterpart is not malevolent or selfish, they think they are living a normal moral life, but are unaware of where they are going wrong. What could you say to them to make them realize that they’re doing wrong? What evidence are they overlooking that allows them to hold their discriminatory views? You might want to write a few paragraphs or just bullet points, and spend time reflecting on what you write.
Dear friend,
I write to you with respect and kindness. I know that in your time, many people believe that women must be kept in a limited role in society. However, I want to share with you that today we understand that women are equal to men. Women have strong minds, great talents, and deep feelings. They work hard, care for their families, and help build communities. When we do not allow women to have the same chances as men, we lose the benefit of all their abilities. This is why I ask you to consider that treating women fairly is not a new idea but a truth that makes our society stronger.
I also ask you to think about the harm that comes from oppressing women. When women are not allowed to study, work, or speak freely, it hurts not only them but also everyone around them. The stories of many women show that they can make great improvements if given a chance. There is much evidence that societies where women are respected and supported become more creative, peaceful, and prosperous. Ignoring the talents and rights of half of the population makes our society weaker and limits our progress.
I understand that your views come from the traditions and ideas of your time. But I hope you can see that these ideas may be incomplete. I ask you to open your heart and mind to the possibility that women deserve the same respect and opportunities as men. By accepting this, you will help create a kinder and stronger community for all people. I believe that fairness and respect are the true foundations of a good life, and I hope you can join me in this belief.