I love EAs but sometimes I think I actually liked my life better when EA was something I did online when I was feeling ambitious. Then when interacting offline, I could relax more.
I live in an EA hub now. I loved it at first but now I’m kind of tired of it, like I can never relax.
If I wanted to try out living somewhere else sunny, pleasant, and with no EA group, do any obvious places come to mind?
I’m considering Central and South America, Asia, and the Mediterranean.
Have you just tried not hanging out with EAs so much where you are? Most EA hubs are big cities, there are lots of other people!
This is true. I appreciate you taking a minute to make a supportive comment!
I got downvoted but I’m not hating on the community at all.
Even more than my previous IRL communities, EAs are consistently kind, interesting, share my values, and offer events that I think are likely to do some actual good. I am drawn to the real life EA community like moth to flame whenever there is one available. But it’s also not sustainable for me to be so involved in EA. That’s not the community’s fault. It’s a quirk of my own psychology.
I’d like to live somewhere sunny where IRL EA hangouts is not an option so I’m incentivized to make other connections.
If you like the location you're currently in, it seems pretty worth it to try to hang out with other people in your current community first. Join a sports team or games club or something. If you're worried about incentives, then ask a friend for accountability. Say you'll pay them $20 if you don't actually go to the event and ask them to follow up on it.
I'm a bit worried you're underestimating how difficult it would be to move to an entirely different continent on your own. Life as an expat can be expensive and alienating.
It's slightly less reversible socially. I find my core social connections in a city have fallen to one side by about two years after I've moved somewhere else, and take several months of effort to pick up again.
Of course, that might suggest a new solution: move for a year or two, then come back to your city and just don't talk to the EAs!
I think ~99.9% of cities don't have in-person EA hangouts.
Maybe you can just find the best cities for you and only later filter out the few ones with an EA group?
You can also check https://forum.effectivealtruism.org/community for places to avoid
Not sure about best places, though I have a friend who's working on setting up an EA community in Tulsa, Oklahoma.
It might be worth pointing out that, in my experience, EAs seem quite unusual in tending to talk about EA almost all the time, e.g. at parties and other events as well as at work. I've often found this inspiring and energising, but I can also understand how someone could feel overwhelmed by it.
The first guess that comes to mind (might be overindexing on availability bias) is picking one of the poorer Caribbean island countries. There are EAs in the Carribean, but they tend to congregate in the more developed islands with better infrastructure.
My second guess is deeply conservative/religious places, like rural places in the US Bible Belt, or maybe smaller cities in Iran.
Unfortunately both may have issues with being e a culturally good fit.
More broadly unfortunately your task here is nontrivial: you're trying to use community building infrastructure to anti-congregate, which is a hard thing to do!
The Bible Belt generally has really unpleasant weather in the summer, FYI, unless you're used to hot & humid climates. Plus the winters can still be pretty cold. I think OP will have better luck living somewhere sort of resort-y but not one of the major tourist hubs. Perhaps someplace like Belize or Peru, or one of the lesser-known Greek islands. In the US, a smaller Californian city like San Luis Obispo or a lesser-known East Coast beach town like St. Augustine, FL might work.
It's slightly less reversible socially. I find my core social connections in a city have fallen to one side by about two years after I've moved somewhere else, and take several months of effort to pick up again.
Of course, that might suggest a new solution: move for a year or two, then come back to your city and just don't talk to the EAs!