I hear that it's a tradition on the EA Forum to start new posts by announcing the existence of a new EA cause area, rather than just saying "X seems like a good idea to me".
So, new EA cause area: combat EA burnout, work/life imbalance, deference/conformity culture, guilt-steering, over-optimizing for defensibility, etc. by adopting a healthier attitude to fun, and to your own weird self.
A specific mental motion that I've found useful is to lean into and delight in the following feeling:
Oh shit, I found a weird way to give myself hedons! Time to hella exploit this and drive up my Hedon Score!
Pride yourself in harmless evil fun, like a speedrunner discovering new exploits.
Like, imagine an EA who finds out for the first time that they really enjoy some activity that's silly and random and not-respected-by-their-peers, like watching Youtube videos of people reacting to horror games. (To choose a random example of something I enjoy.)
One mindset / default emotional response an EA might have to this discovery is: 'Bleh, I've found an embarrassing / un-intellectual way to waste time I could be spending on EA things. I guess I'll do this, since it's fun, but I'll keep vaguely glowering at myself as I do.'
A different response: 'OMG, I found a new vaguely-socially-disapproved-of way to extract enormous numbers of Hedons!! Muhahaha!! Time to pull off the greatest hedon heist in history! 😈'
Maybe later you'll decide that you don't want to spend your time extracting Hedons that way. But whether you stick with your new exploit or not, I suspect the latter immediate-emotional-reaction will conduce more to a sane, healthy, and mentally "alive" mindset. (And to making a more clear-headed decision about whether this fun thing is a good addition to your life.)
The main part I care about here is the "😈 muhaha I'm getting away with something" energy, rather than the focus on fun per se. You can also 😈 at, e.g., scientific research, or virtue cultivation. Though I think there's something very important about it being allowed to just do this for fun.
(Possibly I should call it "😈evil😈 virtue cultivation", to guard against the interpretation that "virtue" here only refers to safe, socially-approved-of, meek-and-mild virtues. Think less Christian virtue, more Aristotelian virtue — the ethos that embraces things like "the virtue of knowing how badass I am".)
I think you are talking about guilty pleasures, yes?
From Wikipedia: A guilty pleasure is something, such as a film, a television program, or a piece of music, that one enjoys despite understanding that it is not generally held in high regard, or is seen as unusual or weird. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guilty_pleasure
Personally, I like the more common phrase,"guilty pleasure" better, because I wouldn't want to label anything I do as evil. How can secretly listening to Barry Manilow be considered evil? lol
This is meant in a lighthearted fashion - but you would feel guilty listening to Barry Manilow? These days, the colloquialism, "guilty pleasure," is meant to be funny, not to invoke actual guilt.
That being said, the concept of feeling guilty when appropriate, actually serves a useful purpose. Those on the anti-social personality disorder spectrum lack a sense of guilt, which is why they so often purposely hurt others. To me, that is evil personified.
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