Hubris and coldness within EA (my experience)

I imagine it feels challenging to share that and I applaud you for that.

While my EA experiences have been much more positive than yours, I do not doubt your account. For many of the points you mention, I can see milder versions in my own experience. I believe your post points towards something important.

Hi James, 

Thanks for writing this - its difficult/intimidating to write and post things of this nature on here, and its also really important and valuable. So thanks for sharing your experience. 

Please don't read this response as being critical/dismissive of your experiences - I have no doubt that these dynamics do exist, and that these types of interaction do  happen (too frequently), in EA spaces. It makes me unhappy to know that well-intentioned people who want to make a different in the world are turned off by interacting with some people in the EA community, or attending some EA events. 

I do want to say though, for fairness sake, that as a member of an ethnic, religious, and geographical minority in the EA community, I feel valued and respected, and that I don't think the attitudes or opinions of the people you're reporting in your post are that common in the greater community, and that (the vast majority of the EAs I know) would be upset to hear another EA behave the way you're reporting they did. 

^This preempts what is the overall theme of the ideas I had when reading your post: that we make a mistake of thinking about the EA community, and EA events, as monolithic or homogenous (in some ways - it is obviously homogenous in many ways). These aren't directed at you, but they're relevant here. 
 

 1. Specifically about EA events: 

People attend EA events (especially EAG(x)s  for many different reasons.  Some people go to expand their network in a specific way/in a specific domain. Others go to further their work or certain objectives and are singularly focused on doing so. Others attend because they value the social and communal spirit of being in a big gathering of altruistically motivated people. However, in my opinion, we should not lose track of the fact that these events exist to improve/enhance attendees positive impact on the world, and to improve the wellbeing of the beings we serve - those suffering in the developing world, animals in factory farms and elsewhere, and the disenfranchised yet to be. We shouldn't be viewing conferences primarily  as places for the EA community to congratulate and celebrate ourselves and have a jolly good time. Given how limited/scarce time is at these events, I do think its reasonable for people to be mindful of the way that they use their time, and be open in communicating when they think an interaction isn't producing value (to other people, not just the participants of the interaction). But the way that they do that can vary in appropriateness and It's hard to see a reason that someone does this in a way that insults the other person when a non-insulting alternative could have easily been deployed. 
 

2. Generally about the EA community: 

There are people from overlapping communities, sub-groups, and differently-motivated backgrounds in the EA community - yet alone people with differing moral schools of thought, cause-area interest, and needs of the EA community. Not to try and caricature you or try and psychologically analyse you, but the types of complaints in your post point to the types of deficiencies which would be most noticed by someone who would highly value the social and communal nature of the EA community, which many people do. However it's easy to forget that not everyone cares about the community - many people who are in the EA community care about the community and its network for purely instrumental reasons (in that its only valuable because it helps them achieve their goals). I'm sorry that the community interactions you had were so negative and not what you'd want them to be like. However, there are lots of other places where 'nice' people abound that you could be part of at the same time as being part of the EA community. One thing I worry about is EAs trying to use the EA community/ecosystem to fulfil every possible social function/need, because its clearly not set up to do that. Please don't abandon EA values or goals  just because of these interactions - being an EA is about how you  live  your life and how you behave and treat others. 

(again, I really do mean this all in the most understanding and sympathetic way - I hope it comes across, but I apologise if it doesn't). 

I was on the fence between posting this under my name vs. using an anonymous account. I decided to go ahead, because this is something I've discussed with other folks and it's something I feel pretty strongly about. I wanted to write this comment both to validate your experience and to say a few words about how I see the path forward.

I've had those experiences too: feeling dismissed, shut down, or like I'm not worth someone's time. 

But - and maybe this is because I have a stubborn, contrary, slightly masochistic, "oh yeah? I'll show you" streak - I stuck around. I'm not saying that this is the only way to go; if hanging out with other people in the EA community is causing you pain, I don't want that for you and it is 100% OK to go and do your own thing. 

But if you can: stick around.

Because here's the thing: not everyone is like that. I'd go so far as to say that folks with the attitude above are in the minority. There are SO many humane, warm, kind people in this movement. There are people with a sense of humor and a healthy bit of self-doubt and a generous willingness to meet others where they are. When I hang out with them, I feel inspired to work harder and do more good and to continue to be part of this community. And I've made it my task to find those people, encourage them, and make sure they stick around too.

If you (and I'm addressing anyone reading this, not just James) have a vision for what you want a given community to look like, you can stick around and help bring it to life. We get to create the communities we want to be a part of - how awesome is that? For my part, that's what I'm striving to do. And I'm here to encourage others to do the same. 

Posting from an alt account...

Definitely feel like hubris and elitism damage new ideas being explored within the EA space. Speaking from my experience with a new idea that I founded a non-profit to promote, I have found the EA community generally unhelpful, with a few notable exceptions.

I was encouraged when I heard 80k and other sources discuss the value of exploration in conjunction with exploitation. This would mean if there isn't evidence to support a new idea or intervention, but there is a plausible mechanism of impact, search costs are usually warranted. However, when discussing my idea, typically there was an exultation of "red-teaming" with very little discussion of development of the idea or empirical validation. I know that strongly evaluating the possibe limitations and downsides of new ideas is indispensable, but the degree to which this is valorized over idea development is absurd with respect to new ideas.

My experience interacting briefly with people with some power and influence in EA was rather disappointing as well. Always had the impression that organizations thought the existing thought leaders knew essentially all of the areas in which fruitful interventions might be found or ideas had merit. As far as EA using its resources to aid projects, the central consideration has seemed to be the connections one has made. A defense of this allocation can be made in that people with good ideas will eventually become known within EA, but the process is slow and selects for those with networking skills and patience.

When applying for grants with EAIF, a declination was not met with any explanation. The reasoning was that they did not have time. The notion that EAIF lacks the resources to hire sufficient staff that one could explain deficiencies in a grant proposal is absurd. It seems to me that either they they don't hold people trying to contribute to EA in new ways in high regard, or that an explanation would potentially render them in some way accountable.

My local EA group is nice, but the focus seems to be valorizing EAs heroes rather than support ideas of the members. They often are unwilling to dedicate any thought or time to new members' ideas. I would think that such groups could be working together to explore and develop high EV potential ways to better the world. Instead, my experience has been that of a fan club of thought leaders.

I cannot help but feel concerned that there are many people with awesome ideas that could produce high EV that lack my stubornity and/or confidence in my idea. I am a very strong believer in the core of EA: using reason to ascertain how to do the greatest good and doggedly pursuing it. I would think it would be immensely high EV to cultivate new ideas, evaluate the means and costs of empirical testing, and helping EAs, in fact implement tests.

EA purports to value new ideas, but it appears in action often unhelpful and even smothering with regard to their development.

"In my opinion, a new more inclusive organisation with a focus on making a positive impact needs to be created - with a better name."

This seems right to me, and it should be focused on recruiting in a different part of the population, and having a very different culture than EA. Of course the end goal should still be doing lots of good in the world as efficiently as possible.

At the same time, EA and the EA brand should remain, and without any big cultural changes (ie still mostly utilitarian, nerd, philosophy grad, using explicit EV calculations, and jargon heavy).

We need more than one effectiveness focused altruism brand.

I'm very sorry to hear you've had these experiences, thanks for sharing them though.

My experiences have been very different to this but I can (sadly) see how this might happen.

If you want to chat I'd be more than happy to some time and can promise to be welcoming and hope I can help in any way I can.

Feel free to DM me 😀

I'd be interested to know if there's any psychological research on how niceness and being ethical may be related.

For example, prior to the FTX incident, I didn't usually give money to beggars, on the grounds that it was ineffective altruism. But now I'm starting to wonder if giving money to beggars is an easy way to cultivate benevolence in oneself, and cultivating benevolence in oneself is an important way to improve as an EA.

Does walking past beggars & rehearsing reasons why you won't give them money end up corroding your character over time, such that you eventually become comfortable doing what Sam did?

H/T these tweets.

Truly sorry to hear about your experience and thank you for sharing it.

Relevant?

Some chaotic thoughts on this.

I somewhat agree with you. I think the specific way in which some EAs interact with other people, especially at conferences, can be very off-putting. As a community organizer myself and someone who thinks that expanding the EA community is important, I think people really should work on their communication skills and manners if we want to expand as a community. From personal experience - I am a member of a minority myself,  someone who joined EA about a year ago, I am also a community organizer. 70% of my interactions with EA people have been positive, but 30% were not-so-great.  

I have brought some friends interested in EA conferences and some of them did not have the most positive experience. Some of the most common complaints included people seeming argumentative and wanting to argue and check every statement another person would make. Now, while it is important to examine the line of thought of people, it can also come off as socially unacceptable. There are some things that can be challenged - but also some things that are too personal to people's lived experiences. Being 'socially awkward' or introverted is not an excuse to hurt someone's feelings or to come off as rude. If you want more people to relate to your ideas, you probably should learn how to make them relatable to them and be more open to experiences or ideas that don't seem rational to you.  

Telling someone you don't want to waste your time on them just like that is plain rude, no possible approach or personality trait can justify this behavior. It's really easy to say "Hey I am so sorry, I have a very tight schedule and don't have time for any more 1-on-1s, I hope you understand!". You can literally copy a polite sentence and respond to everyone with that if you are not interested... 

Making others feel they are not important enough is literally a recipe for pushing people away from the EA movement. No one has a monopoly on the movement, even people who think they are 'very high-up', 'important', and 'in the mentoring position'. It's frankly very annoying that some people think they are much better than others, and other people with insecurities fuel that belief and make these people believe they are so-so important. This top-to-down approach often does not work.  Most of the people who think they are so much more important than you are probably not. 

I agree with you as often I have felt some weirdness from certain EAs. I think part of it comes from the fact that several of these EAs are born and raised in a context where they don't experience much oppression and have the privilege of thinking about several issues that affect some people only theoretically. I am not a cultural leftist at all, but I do think that insensitivity to some experiences is a problem in EA at times. 

That being said, it's just one part of people in the EA who act the way you and I experienced. There are also some people who navigate social contexts better and talking with them has made my experience in the EA way more enjoyable.

Maybe some of the things that we could do as a community is have people who would train people on communications or have more workshops related to how to communicate with others in and out of the community more effectively. It is quite unbelievable that we need training on communications just to make someone from the US or Germany understand that someone who is a woman, queer, coming from Eastern Europe, the Middle East, or South Asia, will probably experience things differently and their Western explain-it-all attitude would not be the most effective. 

Hi James, thanks for sharing this. As others have said, it is a difficult thing to do. I'm actually weirdly looking forward to the EA criticisms that will come out of this FTX business. You often hear of the abstract need for criticism and "red-teaming" but not much about the actual criticisms.

I think your story chimes with a bigger difficulty in the EA movement : how small-scale effectiveness measures (ie not talking to junior EAs) end up stymying the movement on a larger scale (being unfriendly and putting people off). 

I'm also worried about whether a utilitarian movement really can value integrity, friendliness etc. I can see how it might see the value in appearing to have integrity or appearing  to value diversity. But if those things get in the way of effectiveness, won't they be covertly canned?

I'm a 30y.o. in London and consider myself fairly friendly. If you want to talk about stuff, get in touch.

I’ve had a similar awful experience although with less direct negative feedback. Without going to to too much detail, I have deep domain expertise in a top EA cause area. While some of the EAs I’ve met working on this problem are brilliant, some are dangerously naive and overconfident to the point of likely causing immense harm over their careers. Unfortunately some of these people work for funders. I have tried to get excited about doing more in the EA community for years but just couldn’t overlook these seemingly obvious errors in judgement.

Side note: not everyone talks openly about their wealth and there are many people who could be medium-major donors who EA regularly burns through these bad professional interactions. There are a lot of people like me who are highly sympathetic to the EA worldview with ~tens of millions of net worth that could plausibly become EA donors or at least % pledgers. The hubris around these two highly volatile illiquid funding sources has been astonishing to witness as an outsider.

Thank you for your post, you've articulated what several others have privately shared with me. It is precisely because of the attitude you described that these individuals are reluctant to address this issue within the community. 

While there are many good, kind, and intelligent people in EA, there are also some who are not.  

In my humble opinion,  EA might benefit from spending more time studying and embodying the moral principles of virtue ethics, and less time on utilitarianism and the rationalist community. 

"How you treat the one reveals how you regard the many, because everyone is ultimately a one. " 

Stephen R. Covey, author of  "7 Habits of Highly Effective People"

Thank you for sharing. I have had similar experiences myself. Since the FTX saga, I have found myself pouring over Twitter/EA Forums and I have realized that this is, in part, due to wanting to find comments like yours that would confirm what I had already known deep down:

1. Doing good better doesn't necessarily equate to being a good human being. I'm sure there are good EA humans who are looking to do the most good with their resources, but it seems to me that the former outweighs the latter when it comes down to it.

2. Intellectual snob/superiority is seen as something to be proud of. EA has grown from originally focusing on global health and poverty to animal welfare to longtermism - quite a mixed bag actually. It seems like you have to accept the priorities that are presented by lead EA orgs/thinkers to qualify as EA (degrees of variations are ok as long as you still subscribe to them in general) . Any disagreement you would have would be seen as you not coming from the same intellectual depths of the Oxbridge/Ivy league philosophers and economists  who dominate the EA movement. 

I want to add: I've had a few similar experiences of being rudely dismissed where the person doing the rude dismissing was just wrong about the issue at hand. I mean, you, dear reader, obviously don't know whether they were wrong or I was wrong, but that's the conclusion I drew.

Furthermore, I think Gell-Mann amnesia is relevant here: the reason I'm so confident that my counterpart was wrong in these instances is because I happened to have a better understanding of the particular issues - but for most issues I don't have a better understanding than most other people. So this might be more common than my couple of experiences suggest.

I've had a roughly equal number of good experiences working with EAs, and overwhelmingly good experiences at conferences (EAGx Australia only).

Thank you for sharing your perspective, I have heard many people sharing similar intuitions. And I agree, EA events often lack a certain humanity. Even local groups are supposed to be outreach vehicles first, and only some try to also be communities of mutual support.

That said, less official community-driven grassroots events feel much better. I've been to a bunch here in Germany. But yes, EA-branded events can feel inhumanely corporate and soulless.

I try to do my part by bringing humanity where I can and I encourage anyone reading this to be thoughtful in their interactions with the community.

Really sorry to hear about your experiences. I hope that if you attend further events, that you have better experiences in the future.

I think that it is valid for EA to think carefully about its target audience and whether we want to target “intellectual elites” or more broadly, but that doesn’t mean that people should be rude at events and I'm sad whenever I hear people discuss this in an unproductive way.